Mexican Cherry : September 2017

What makes sex good? No, what does it take to make it AWESOME?

Perhaps nobody ever sits down and actually thinks it through and I have asked those around me on what they think makes an encounter of sex, the most delightful one.

In life we get experiences that we pay for, such as trying new food, getting on a roller coaster or flying across the world, we even pay for sex and it is nothing new but, even though it's there...can we pay for good sex?

Not all encounters are magical and this is what my friends (mostly women) have told me when discussing the subject. Most of them argue it is a lack of attention to detail, which pretty much sums up in finding the clit, tragic isn't it? 2017 years counted and men still cannot find the clit...and don't get me started on the G-spot!

But gathering all information on good and bad sex, location is not the main problem.

First, let me remind you not all women will agree or identify with this, and this cherry knows there is a diversity of opinions and experiences, this is not an universal truth, just a woman telling her experience or other people experiences in this freedom space~

Getting back to it, when I exposed this topic to other women, first of all they would mention the physical aspects, you know, the obvious reasons of why a sexual encounter would fail or be prone to, but as our talk got deeper it seems like another side of the crystal came up and most of them would actually mention emotional connection.

They say emotions are tricky and dangerous, mostly one of them that plays with our daily life in every single way... LOVE.

Women agreed they would have the best sex of their lifes with those they loved and it's no surprise really! Sex is not only physical, but also a challenging and eye opening act of connection (sometimes of course). Just imagine, you are connected by a body part = penis, tongue, hand, fist... = with another person, it doesn't happen everyday! Someone is actually inside you! And when these parts have that click that makes them not only fit together but blend into pleasure, oh boy! That's when the magic happens.

They also mentioned even though the partner was not the ideal type they had in mind in the physical way, the connection they had was more than enough to keep the orgasms hitting the door, making them have the stronger ever they have experienced! Cause even with a big and porn ideal penis, emotions bring a lot to the table and they might even play against you if your partner does not feel a click.

So, sex is awesome and yes, you can have it without feelings but with them it seems women are experiencing more than good sex...they are unlocking the pleasure that comes from love and if you ever get to experience a true connection that can translate in sex too, you have discovered the MAGICAL SEX.

Until another midnight of Sex and the City inspiration

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Era un día de San Valentín cualquiera, al menos cualquiera de los que pasé en preparatoria y la escuela decidió que era buena idea llevarnos a todos al cine a ver una película de zombies que sí, se enamoran y bueno, de lo lindo todo.

Antes de esta ocasión, mis amigos sabían muy bien de un crush mío, ese chico dreamy pero nerdy, que tenía sonrisa colgate y además era listo, jugaba volleyball y se lucía por lo alto. Era flaco y bastante reservado, pero para mí en ese entonces era un chico que me gustaba demasiado.

Volviendo a lo del cine, días antes decidí tomar el asunto en mis manos y confesarme, era cuando el drama coreano me daba bastantes ideas y eso de la confesión fue muy popular, así que dije ok, ¿Cómo decirle? Inventé un dichoso intercambio de regalos entre toda la clase, solo para poder comprar una taza de espresso blanca y que no me dijeran nada en casa, aparte de pensar en hornearla con un diseño hecho por mí.

El hecho de que fuera homemade también me daba esa ilusión de que el chico dijera wow! ok! seamos algo! (lo cual ahora pienso que fue super iluso de mi parte), pero bueno yo la hice toda linda con la frase en espiral y por dentro de la taza se leía:

Will you be my valentine?

La envolví y en una bolsa color morado (mi favorito), esperando lo mejor, otros detalles no recuerdo.

Ugh! Ese día me llevaron en auto al lugar y no sé si salimos a destiempo o algo por el estilo pero llegué super tarde y cuando todos ya estaban dentro de la sala. Lo que si es que mis amigos sabían que me gustaba y me guardaban un lugar junto a él, aunque cuando llegué alguien más lo había tomado, así que pasé toda la función en la parte de abajo y con un amigo que gracias al cielo me ayudó a no sentirme tan sola en el área de maestros... acabando la película salimos y todos andaban ya sea de shopping o viendo si íbamos a comer juntos.

Antes de esto llamé al chico y sin decirle nada solo le di la bolsa, porque preguntó para quién era o si me lo habían dado, extendí ridículamente mis brazos y se lo di, después de eso dijo amablemente, gracias! y nos separamos....en parte porque era la primera vez que yo hacía algo así con alguien que me gustara (lo cual era inusual) y también porque de la emoción salí corriendo lejos y llorando del shock y de lo boba que me sentí haciendo eso, aunque varias de mis amigas felicitaron el momento y lo valiente que fue.

Pasó el tiempo y de hecho fuimos a comer en la misma plaza; no lo volví a ver ese día, así que era obvio el resultado. Otro amigo solo me pudo decir que fue un "shock" para él y que no sabía que hacer, pero era obvio el rechazo, sino qué más?

Ni siquiera fue capaz de mencionar el tema, nunca hablamos de eso y solo lo dejé ir...me trató como si no hubiera pasado nada, solo amigos y ni siquiera de los cercanos. Creo que eso cuenta como experiencia de lo que muchos llaman friendzone, pero solo sé que desde ese entonces decidí que yo no haría el first move de ser novios o algo así, o sea si decir hey me gustas! pero no la pregunta que hace oficial a la pareja, porque esa experiencia me hizo darme cuenta de que quiero vivirlo, ser yo la que reciba algo lindo como lo que hice, que ese momento alguien lo preparara conmigo en mente...

Confiaba mucho en la valentía de declararse una y hacer la pregunta, pero al menos una vez en la vida, quiero sentir mariposas de que el hombre en cuestión haga una pregunta así, cursi o no, es algo que me gustaría y es por ello que dejé de lado la idea de ser yo la que hiciera tal cosa, al menos para "la pregunta" y no puedo decir que no he pensado en ello, porque cuando te pega el amor puedes hacer cualquier cosa, pero al menos en este asunto aún me reservaré ser el primero que alce la voz.

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This year can be named the "year of planning" for the Mexican Cherry life

It all started with my life falling to pieces with lovely chaos in 2016, handling conflicting emotions, college and extracurricular activity. It became clear I needed a system to organize all my activities in the most effective way. I've always been a lover of to-do lists but to be honest, they tend to be forgotten or filled with nonsense tasks that just make post its look pretty and full!

This time I took it seriously. So, January became the test of the nouveau, took a notebook and casually wrote down lists of things I had to get done throughout the day. Motivation was there cheering me up every second and I had to do this even better... but there was something missing, since the notebook became the post it instead, it needed a SYSTEM...and after a couple of months indulging in cute planner photos on tumblr and Instagram, it was time for me to join in the adventure...yes!! I made a Bullet Journal!!!

Sort of

There are plenty tips and videos to take you into the process of making one, first of all I saw and read all the content from the creator Ryder Carroll, you can check it here: Creator's Website! I have to confess, it took me days to figure it out and completely understand how to Bujo, plenty of videos and articles, tons of pretty pictures, but I finally jumped in with a basic notebook and gave it a try!

You can check my favorite blogger Rachel Nguyen explaining in her own style the lovely method of the Bullet Journal: Her vid right here. Also, make sure to follow her, she has great content (in love with her vlogmas, or well, pretty much all her vlogs).

This was my first attempt (must say I prefer the minimalistic (?) way of making it) and believe me, this takes time and a bit of effort depending on the style you go for, but eventually you will find your own style and approach to plan with the Bullet Journal method.

Some advice, please, please, please! Do NOT feel pressured to make it artsy or aesthetically pleasing for everyone, as long as it works for you it's perfect and you can adjust it to look however you want~

This is the very first step I took into making my life a tad more productive and I am loving it now! Must say that it still does not reflect my complete style or even the design I picture in my head for it, but it works in organizing my activities, tasks and every single thing that can fit over there! Which is the main objective.

The attempt at this method below

First, the cover

To be honest I just grabbed a notebook that once was dropped in my mailing box, from an insurance promoting a life insurance package. Why not using a prettier notebook? Because I wanted to experience first and doodle, wreck it exploring styles and then use a lovely notebook/ planner using my preferred method without wasting such a beautiful item in experimenting (which I will make later this moth).

It is a really simple notebook, but loved the spyral and the fact that I was not worried experimenting with it because it was not the dream notebook, so the experiment was even easier, btw you can see the mark of the insurance company

Index

At first, I followed every advice and made the correspondent sections that were recommended, obviously the index is one of them. I had no idea of what symbols to use for what, but in the end it didn't even matter, because my pages turned out to work just using the squared box and the migration symbol, those are the only ones that stayed with me until now, and they work pretty well also, simple and precise.

Key

I tried using the key symbols but it was just too much, and it wasn't the best for me to have a symbol for every single thing, because I write in the Bujo the tasks to accomplish throughout the day, month, year and cathegorizing all seemed just a bit of a mess.

Pages Examples

My pages were pretty simple, no template to keep them on track, no images, nothing but text and motivation to get things done, I actually love how the one with the post it looks, idk why but it makes me feel like I did great fulfilling the must do chores.

I plan on having a more styled "template" for the upcomming hand made notebook, but right now completing the experimental bujo feels great!

Collections

If you have seen the creator's website (linked above), you'll get to watch some amazing as bullet journals, even the introduction video looks flawless, somehow this experiment didn't came out as stylish and pretty, but it truly helped me take a deeper look into bullet journalling and adapting it to my needs and daily life.

There is a section of the bujo's named Collections and you're supposed to fill pages with literally whatever you want, if you want a spread of favorite books, budget management, movies to watch, bucket lists, goals.....etc~ You put those in a section and write the page number of it to have it spotted. I had tiny post it marks on those that needed attention like the blue one above that showcases the importance of the section.

My collections include:

Wishlist - Products I want and have gotten over time

Managemente of my social service

Challenges - write down every challenge I do

Weight tracker - This cherry is on a diet

Article Ideas

Future Log Year Style - Wrote down what I want to accomplish this year

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Future Log

Every month you "have" to write what your goals are for the month or the chores you postponed and now have to take place on another month (which was more my case). To be honest this didn't helped me much, because I forgot to take a look at the monthly future goal, sometimes I did but the tasks that were postponed too much were simply not meant to get done unless really important.

The one that was a bit more inspiring was the one I added to Collections which included my year goals.

Calendars

Cherry is quite a visual girl, so she needed to adapt the so called monthly future log... Drawing calendars on each month leaving enough space to place important events or tasks was easier and it gave me a visual tool to help me organize my week and acknowledging how much time was left to get things done.

This was pretty much how it all started with the experiment of having an actual bullet journal, cannot say it was the easiest to do, and I had to addapt plenty to make it work for me without wasting useful time.

Now I plan to make my own notebook and have a prettier one, now with the system and the adaptation that completes my daily organization.

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